Guys! This is important information! A lot of people get allergic reactions from the chrome and/or nickel in the “Cheap Chinese” devices.
These cages are good for short term play like an evening with tease and denial but they are not suited for long term wear.
Check out my November 28th entry for some quick info on selecting the right chastitydevice.
Photos of some of the cheap Chinese devices on the market here.
CHASTITY FANS BEWARE !!
What you see here is skin breakdown from an allergic reaction to a cheap metal chastity device purchased on DHGate.com from China. It was ok the first few times but then i noticed a sore on last warring. We took a 2 week break and then this is from only 36 hours of wear. IF YOU HAVE A CHASTITY BLOG PLEASE RE-POST THIS as a courtesy warning for others like me just getting involved in this lifestyle. Fortunately my Goddess let me out as soon as i told Her it was hurting like this (maybe it is my medical background that compelled Her to listen). Guess it is time to find a better device.
It comes down to finding out why he says no and making him comfortable with whatever reluctance he has. If he can’t give you a good reason or you can’t satisfy his reluctance, move on and/or let him know that’s the option if he can’t be more flexible. He doesn’t have to allow you to watch all the time, but 1 for 3 wouldn’t be bad - at least to start with.
I’ve known of couples who get started at this stage of their marriage, but it does come with a higher barrier to entry (no pun intended).
With practice, a hotwife can tease her cuckold this way for literally hours. Tell me that’s not far more pleasure and intimacy than a few minutes of energetic poking.
My goal was simply to point out that arousal is not necessarily an indicator of bisexuality in the male. Where I once thought everyone was either top or bottom (no real switches), I now believe everyone has predisposition for one or the other, but their reaction (and reality) is largely dynamic and based on the (perceived) roles (and social rank) of those with which they interact. As you know, there are few true leaders; most people would rather follow than lead - we’re just built that way.
Sufficient girth, but obviously short on length. I think hand-training this one is perhaps the best path for this couple if she has already found herself a boyfriend to reach those deep places inside her.
There is no larger empirical evidence of men’s sexual desires than the marketplace.
When the modern porn era began the biggest male stars were average looking guys with big penises, i.e. Ron Jeremy. However, producers learned that men preferred to see buff good looking guys have sex, not average looking guys. At the same time, the they found men preferred to see the actor’s penis as he ejaculated, i.e. “external cum shot”. This evolved to the modern state where nearly all porn movies feature at least one scene of a man masturbating in front of a woman until he ejaculates onto her.
The market place is a survey far larger than any academic’s study and is more trustworthy in that it shows clearly what men find arousing and what they enjoy seeing while they masturbate. The overwhelming majority of men are aroused by seeing a good looking man, with a large penis, as he reaches orgasm. Men find seeing such a man ejaculate is highly arousing. Further the evidence of the porn industry is that men very much like to see other men’s semen and they like the idea of it being consumed by others.
Porn made for women does not normally include male masturbation, the visual sight of a man ejaculating or the act of eating semen. These are all things that sexually arouse the vast majority of men which is why it is ubiquitous in porn made for men. These facts stand in stark contrast to the fact men tell researcher that they are not aroused by homoerotic images.
Thus, men are far more open to homoerotic sexual arousal than they want to admit, even to themselves.
Therefore I conclude, as did Kinsey, that the “normal” sexual identification for men is bisexual.
While I agree with the professor’s observations about male preferences and behaviors with regard to porn, I disagree with the conclusion that it points to a natural orientation of bisexual for males.
We know from gobs of marketing analysis that males respond more to ads featuring more masculine males, but women respond very negatively to other women in ads if they are overly feminine. This is despite a very relaxed social attitude about female/female sexuality. Don’t believe this? Watch your usual evening shows and check out the commercials obviously intended for the female audience. You will find they never, ever have more than a B cup (if that) and sexuality is very down-played.
Males, on the other hand, respond to the more masculine men - just as women, on average, would. Does this automatically imply sexual attraction? I think not.
Let me set the stage a bit: before religion imposed its conventions upon humanity, we largely lived in small social groups as other mammals do. All members of the group would have social rank determined by their outward characteristics and how they were perceived by their group. Males would compete for females based on social rank. Should two males compete for the same female, the lower ranking of the two will step aside. This isn’t a defeat, but practice of the group dynamic. He’s a good solider doing his duty. When two males are of the same rank, or a lower rank is looking to move up, conflict happens. This response is present in humans, too. We size each other up and without the interference of artificial ‘programming’ a beta male will prefer to step aside for a higher ranking beta or the group alpha.
Females, in this dynamic, don’t compete directly with each other as males do. Rather they compete through their social rank and their appeal to the males in their group. This is why I believe women don’t respond to advertising featuring overly feminine women and see it as threatening.
Does a male enjoying the sight/idea of a larger, erect phallus imply he desires that cock himself? Again, I think not. I think more often the dynamic is that the male organ is a symbol for the role of the alpha. Religion (and government) replaced the role of the alpha male in our social groups leading people to seek leadership from ‘God’ rather than the leader(s) they chose for themselves. I propose that a virile cock is the ideal symbol for a beta male wanting his wife to have an alpha male experience and would hazard a guess that more males fall into that category than simply want a cock for themselves. I think the number of males who would actually date and engage in a relationship with another male is rather quite limited compared to the number of woman who would consider the same. Yet the number of males who would respond to another male sexually when/while their wife/girlfriend is a component of the mix is probably much higher. This, to me, points to the social dynamic, not an orientation one.
Tokens of ownership can take subtle forms as well. To most, this heavy silver chain is simple jewelry, but for this hotwife, her boyfriend, and her cuckold, it’s a symbol of her bond with her boyfriend.
Laughing at my tiny dick.
Many cuckold marriages are about the lifestyle or the exploration of D/s roles instead of an actual or even perceived inadequacy, but uh. not this one.
Looking for a way to express your lifestyle to close friends and family without verbally discussing it? How about framing some interracial art and hanging it in a semi-private area like the bedroom.