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Hotwife Mating

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Fantasies & Realities

Seeing the cycle of life played out through the changes and adaptations of a woman’s body is something to be appreciated and celebrated, but not abused for the point of a sexual fantasy. Having said that, the idea of further expressing commitment to this lifestyle through establishing or growing a family is quite common to many couples. Most of them will never seriously consider it or have a situation supportive of it, but for those who finds themselves as such, I offer a few points of information for discussion.

Terms & Definitions

A rightfully proud, expectant mother.

A rightfully proud, expectant mother.

I have changed the title of the article several times now before settling on the current one. I prefer concise titles that most accurately describe the content. I originally entitled his post “Cuckold Pregnancy”, which I felt conveyed a pregnancy sired by someone other than the husband, but have now chosen “Hotwife Mating” since I believe it more accurately reflects the biological imperative and right of a woman to choose her mate, even from within marriage.

I chose not to use the term ‘breeding’ as it is very offensive to some, though in its defense, the term is, I believe, meant to infer submission at the level where a woman (and couple), offer the reproductive choices to their dominant or leave it to fate/chance/nature to decide.

I refer often here to the term ‘mate’, which among our british English speakers refers to a friend or companion rather than the more biological role. Here, I’m definitely referring to the male responsible for fertilizing a woman’s ovum.

In biological terms, procreation is the entire reason women possess the sexual appeal and capacity they do.  If women were meant to only be coupling with one male, only one male would find them attractive, or, after pairing with one male, other males would no longer find her appealing – such is not the case in humans. Mutual attraction can lead to coupling as well as the female’s pursuit of a male she desires as a mate. As a society, we are all programmed to see the words husband and mate as synonymous, but ‘mate’ really only applies to the male or successive males who have successfully impregnated her. This means a wife can have both a husband and a mate in a modern (cuckold) marriage.  I write more about this in Human Mate Choice . This has happened as long as we’ve been around and is the basis for the term cuckold.

Mate Decisions For Hotwives

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Attending their coupling.

More enlightened couples welcome the presence of another male in their marriage, but this invitation alone doesn’t mean a wife will or should choose her boyfriend as her mate. The choice of mate for a hotwife can and should be a complicated one; on one hand she loves her husband and always thought he’d be the one to father her baby, but her boyfriend ignites a much more instinctive consideration as a mate. The instinctive choice is really the only choice for the lower mammals, but for humans, there’s more to think about. First and foremost, is whether the husband has the commitment and love for his wife that would enable him to step aside for the boyfriend to become her mate.

For the sake of argument, let’s say the cuckold not only accepts but welcomes expressing the lifestyle in this way – now you have to consider issues pertaining to the boyfriend:

  • Would he expect a role in the child’s rearing – would you want/not want that?
  • What are state laws regarding who is defined as the legal father?

Let’s say those issues are worked out and you’ve written up a loosely legal document that absolves her boyfriend from legal and financial obligations. Now consider genetic benefits:

  • What is his family medical history compared to your husbands?
  • Is he obviously of a different ethnic/racial background?
  • If so, are you prepared for the additional challenge that may present for you as  family?

In some communities a mixed-race birth would barely raise an eyebrow, even to a white couple, but in others, both the couple and the child could face additional challenges. Having said that, some would consider it their duty to bear that burden so such matings can become more commonplace.

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The moment of insemination as witnessed by her cuckold.

Some couples think natural competition between boyfriend and husband is the way to go, but I caution against that in cases where the biological father would not be obvious after birth since you would have no idea whose medical history that child carries.

ready to make a baby together

For some couples, the boyfriend is an obvious choice as a mate for her, particularly in cases where the boyfriend is an overt leader in the marriage, but for other couples the choice is still a traditional one where the husband’s penis will satisfy it’s marital duties of procreation and then, in some cases, be retired as a sex organ in favor of her boyfriend’s cock.

Hotwife Mating Commitment

Once a couple – and her intended mate – have committed to a hotwife pregnancy, it’s medically important that the hotwife have frequent exposure to her intended mate’s semen. This will ensure her body is more receptive to her boyfriend’s sperm when she is in her most fertile phase and lower risks associated with high blood pressure during pregnancy.

Disorders during pregnancy often stem from the battle between the immune system and the foetus as a ‘foreign body’.

Many of its ‘foreign’ proteins come courtesy of the father’s genes so if the mother is regularly exposed to them her body is more likely to accept them.

Professor Gustaaf Dekker, from the University of Adelaide, said: “If there’s repeated exposure to that signal then eventually when the woman conceives, her cells will say, ‘we know that guy, he’s been around a long time, we’ll allow the pregnancy to continue.”

seededThe research indicated that swallowing her intended mate’s semen was most effective, but all exposure is helpful. I first posted this in »Oral Sex Improves Pregnancy Health . Because of this, once the boyfriend is chosen as the mate, intercourse with the husband must be ended not only to ensure the wife’s choice of mate, but to ensure her body has time to be fully receptive to her boyfriend’s sperm.

Oral could still be practiced as long as she releases his seed elsewhere.

Cuckold Mating Ritual

Mating for a cuckold pregnancy should be an all-hands-on-deck proposition. Once couple I spoke to not long ago took video of their couplings and their Dom required her husband guide him inside each time so there could be no legal argument that the cuckold wasn’t 100% committed to a hotwife pregnancy as a cuckold.

Note how erect he is while guiding a bare cock into his fertile wife.

Note how erect he is while guiding a bare cock into his fertile wife.

Such behavior is not only fitting for a cuckold couple, but a loving gesture empowering both the wife and her chosen mate to make a baby together.

Witness & Document

You will both kick yourselves if you don’t document her pregnancy along the way.

8 weeks 8 weeks 13 weeks 13 weeks 15 weeks 15 weeks

At 8 weeks, there’s not the slightest hint of her boyfriend’s baby and at 12 weeks, her belly could easily be mistaken for a few extra pounds, but by 15 weeks, the shape of her belly is unmistakably of a baby. Show off that belly, be proud of the life you’ve created together as a cuckold couple.

Cuckold Fatherhood

Being new parents is a challenge regardless of who the mate is, but one of the side effects of being a new parent, for men, is lower testosterone, which enables a more patient, caring dad.

A father’s testosterone level drops steeply after his baby arrives, showing that human males are biologically wired to care for their offspring, a U.S. study out Tuesday showed.

Researchers from Northwestern University, Illinois, followed a large group of men in their 20s and found testosterone levels fell after they found partners and became fathers.

They said the effect is the same in many other species in which males take care of dependent offspring, as testosterone boosts behaviors and other traits that help a male compete for a mate.

nursing her mate's babyI first reported this in »Baby Induced Role Change.

Since the cuckold’s testicles have no way of knowing if they successfully impregnated a woman or not, this behavior is driven by the emotional state of the husband and the role of fatherhood rather than whether he’s the actual mate or not. The side-effect of this will be to make her mate even more sexually appealing given his testosterone levels will remain high.

It’s important that couples manage their expectations and realize ahead of time that their postpartum emotions are going to run high at times. Something that would be mundane and natural like nursing the baby at the breast takes on new emotional significance for the husband when it’s his baby nursing on that heavy breast. Once the hotwife is ready for dating again, it can be significantly emotional for a cuckold to be home with the baby while she dates her mate, but if the couple – and their mate, have prepared all along and established an effective trust and communication, everyone will be the better for it.

 pregnancy portrait

Using a cuckold’s tongue instead of his penis is classic female empowerment and male submission. Such adoration shouldn’t only be after a coupling with a boyfriend, but sure has more meaning when it is.

Using a cuckold’s tongue instead of his penis is classic female empowerment and male submission. Such adoration shouldn’t only be after a coupling with a boyfriend, but sure has more meaning when it is.

Sacrifice, yes, virgin - I think not!

Sacrifice, yes, virgin - I think not!

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Reality TV: Polyamory

Polyamory: Married & Dating

Polyamory is a reality TV show on the Showtime network which features two polyamorous relationships involving 7+ people. Polyamory is generally defined as committed, sexual relationships containing multiple partners and was the foundation for human social structure before western religions got involved in our lives.

Defintions

Polyamory differs from swinging in that swinging includes new or different partners without any commitment or relationship – swinging is primarily sexual, whereas polyamory is about the relationship(s) as well as the sex.

  • A hotwife/cuckold marriage becomes polyamorous when the boyfriend becomes emotionally included in the marriage.
  • Polyamory does not require bisexuality from either gender but is fairly common for the women in the lifestyle.

The Show

I had low expectation for the show as most media fails to treat alternative lifestyles very seriously, but I ended up watching several of the first season episodes back to back. There are two main characters in the form of two sets of polyamorous relationships (or ‘pods’): two couples who have been involved with each other for a while who commit to combining into one foursome, and a triad composed of a married couple and their girlfriend.

Of most interest to me is the triad; the women are both attractive, bisexual and entirely fuckable, so what’s not to like, right? Obviously, it’s more interesting (and less controversial) to the vanilla world to see a MFF situation than a MFM situation, but as with most things, the show has to find success before pushing boundaries further. My hope is they will include  a MFM relationship in the next season and preferably one that is more hotwife based and less a situation of two bisexual men who happen to have a woman along for the ride (pun intended). When I’ve seen other MFM poly relationships portrayed on television, that’s what has been most often portrayed.

The first episode opens with the wife returning home from an extended absence while finishing her Masters degree, having left her husband and their girlfriend by themselves. In keeping with a polyamorous lifestyle, Lindsey, the wife, began dating a ‘lover’ while at school and while the husband and girlfriend in the triad are aware of him, they were unaware of the attachment Lindsay has for him which causes significant drama. How this drama was eventually handled was admirable from a lifestyle and personal perspective, but I found myself thinking that what the relationship seemed to lack was a rudder. Whether that rudder was one of the women or the male wouldn’t matter, but I believe someone in a clear, leadership role would greatly benefit most of these relationships.

The other ‘pod’ or foursome, has drama in the form of one of the wives having difficulties managing her jealousy regarding her husband and the other wife, yet she has a female lover she doesn’t want to share with her husband despite mutual attraction. Once more, some overt leadership would clear this up much easier than when left to their individual emotional meanderings.

While Polyamory gets things right in terms of creating multi-partner relationships that are healthy and  in the spirit of how we are biologically wired to create relationships, the practice of treating it like a hippie commune leaves their relationships devoid of leadership. To truly return to the polyamory social structure most natural to us, the members of the pod must recognize one among them as their alpha and through that, reduce much of the emotional clutter that complicates their lives.

Just my two cents.

Overall, the show presents compelling characters and I will continue watching.

An Official Trailer

 

Deeeenied!

Deeeenied!

New Post has been published on http://cuckoldmarriage.info/2013/04/public-chastity/Public ChastityAre you truly committed?
Having your penis restrained for your hotwife’s pleasure and control is a beautiful gift of submission; having it publicly displayed as a declaration of your lifestyle and her sexual availability takes courage and commitment few cuckolds possess.
One might think this cuckold is restrained on this beach because he’s kept that way 24/7 by his wife (or their Dom). It could also easily be that he’s traditionally not restrained, but both agreed to make this vacation lifestyle-related and chose this public statement to help communicate their status as a cuckold couple.
The only thing missing from this shot is the wife’s boyfriend (perhaps he took the shot). Perhaps she doesn’t have one and is open to exploring her sexuality with a man or men of her choosing while on vacation, but if she does have one and he came along on the vacation, restraining the cuckold’s penis would make the nature of their threesome very transparent on that beach, would it not?
Some husbands on that beach are going to see his restrained penis and recoil in horror while others will feign horror and roll over on their stomachs to hide their unrestrained penis betraying them.
Are you man enough to love your wife this way?

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Public Chastity

Are you truly committed?

nude-beach-chastityHaving your penis restrained for your hotwife’s pleasure and control is a beautiful gift of submission; having it publicly displayed as a declaration of your lifestyle and her sexual availability takes courage and commitment few cuckolds possess.

One might think this cuckold is restrained on this beach because he’s kept that way 24/7 by his wife (or their Dom). It could also easily be that he’s traditionally not restrained, but both agreed to make this vacation lifestyle-related and chose this public statement to help communicate their status as a cuckold couple.

The only thing missing from this shot is the wife’s boyfriend (perhaps he took the shot). Perhaps she doesn’t have one and is open to exploring her sexuality with a man or men of her choosing while on vacation, but if she does have one and he came along on the vacation, restraining the cuckold’s penis would make the nature of their threesome very transparent on that beach, would it not?

Some husbands on that beach are going to see his restrained penis and recoil in horror while others will feign horror and roll over on their stomachs to hide their unrestrained penis betraying them.

Are you man enough to love your wife this way?

Such play is entirely appropriate as sensation play, bondage play or, as in the display of testicle spanking, fitting punishment for offenses such as spurting without permission, attempting intercourse without permission.

It would also be amazing for her sister/best friend to witness.

New Post has been published on http://cuckoldmarriage.info/2013/04/by-the-balls/By The BallsNot getting his attention? This should help…

No, it’s not a remote control for your husband, merely a remote control for his dangly bits!
Obtained in any PetsMart, Petco or major pet store, these training collars are designed to provide a small, measured shock to a dog for behavior modification training. Sounds like just the thing for your husband, doesn’t it?
Looking to up your electrical play?
»Try the Kinklab Neon Wand
Electrical play, despite first impressions, is actually a very safe way to explore sensation play and for the bulls hoping to step into a Dom role with their couple, sensation play should be a standard part of your toolkit.

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By The Balls

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Not getting his attention? This should help…

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No, it’s not a remote control for your husband, merely a remote control for his dangly bits!

Obtained in any PetsMart, Petco or major pet store, these training collars are designed to provide a small, measured shock to a dog for behavior modification training. Sounds like just the thing for your husband, doesn’t it?

Looking to up your electrical play?

»Try the Kinklab Neon Wand

Electrical play, despite first impressions, is actually a very safe way to explore sensation play and for the bulls hoping to step into a Dom role with their couple, sensation play should be a standard part of your toolkit.

Probably the opening for another cheap porn, but a creative opening.

Probably the opening for another cheap porn, but a creative opening.

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The blindfold is necessary so the eyes don’t prejudice the sensation.
The ball gag is necessary to avoid waking the baby.
Hopefully they gagged the cuckold as well as witnessing such play can easily have him spurting spontaneously.
Tip: The temperature of hot wax can be adjusted by two main factors:

avoiding colored candles as they burn hotter


dropping the wax from a higher level, allowing it to cool on the way

When sensation play is done properly and the pet is properly aroused and blindfolded, her nervous system won’t know the difference at first between the hot wax or a cold ice cube!

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Hot!

Pun Intended

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The blindfold is necessary so the eyes don’t prejudice the sensation.
The ball gag is necessary to avoid waking the baby.

Hopefully they gagged the cuckold as well as witnessing such play can easily have him spurting spontaneously.

Tip: The temperature of hot wax can be adjusted by two main factors:

  • avoiding colored candles as they burn hotter

  • dropping the wax from a higher level, allowing it to cool on the way

When sensation play is done properly and the pet is properly aroused and blindfolded, her nervous system won’t know the difference at first between the hot wax or a cold ice cube!

Beautiful pet posture: a product of training and discipline.

Beautiful pet posture: a product of training and discipline.

…my wife dressing for a date while i was out of town on business…

Very sexy - I hope she’s not only dating when you’re away, though.

…my wife dressing for a date while i was out of town on business…

Very sexy - I hope she’s not only dating when you’re away, though.
That’s the expression that seeing her like this wasn’t the accident you may think it is.

That’s the expression that seeing her like this wasn’t the accident you may think it is.

What every cuckold should get to witness at least once and what every hotwife should enjoy frequently.

What every cuckold should get to witness at least once and what every hotwife should enjoy frequently.

Just blowing on them when bound so snugly should be enough to weaken his knees.

Just blowing on them when bound so snugly should be enough to weaken his knees.