This is probably a pretty substantial organ when not caged, yet here it is - restrained.
The torment of accepting being refused the most basic male right, the right of erection, is his gift to his wife. This alone is a substantial gift of sacrifice, but it takes on geometrically increased significance when she chooses to restrain his penis while enjoying the free, erect cock of another male.
Couples naturally but incorrectly assume that to have physical intimacy, they would have to be having intercourse when the fact is that for many, if not most cuckold couples, intercourse is likely one of the least effective methods for enjoying and sharing in physical intimacy. For cuckolds who lacked stamina before they became cuckolds, that situation is not going to improve any once she has taken a lover. Her cuckold will be unable to look at her lips without thinking of her kissing him, he will be unable to look at her breasts without seeing them cupped in her lover’s hands and most of all, he won’t be able to be inside her without thinking first of their coupling. This, of course, is going to have dire consequences even for husbands who previously had good stamina, let alone those who di not. Let’s face it - a few minutes of huff and puff and a unilateral orgasm is not intimacy - it’s masturbation using her body.
Do cuckold couples need to experience physical and emotional intimacy? Absolutely - we just want that done in ways that will be effective and yet not come between the sexual relationship between wife and lover.
Effective methods for sharing in physical and emotional intimacy without intercourse:
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When a cuckold’s penis is simply ineffective at bringing his wife to orgasm during intercourse, or a decision has been made, with respect to his role as a submissive, and access to intercourse is greatly restricted or fully denied, a cuckold’s penis shouldn’t be ignored, but rather the opposite. The cuckold’s penis should then be employed differently in the expression of sexual intimacy, release and most importantly, control.
Unrestricted, a cuckold will masturbate and therefore spurt much more often than before his cuckolding due to the intensely erotic nature of being a cuckold, but it shouldn’t be his task alone to masturbate that penis. Once it’s been established that the cuckold can no longer expect or ask for intercourse, the wife is then free - and expected - to pet, stroke, squeeze and tickle his genitals into arousal at whim without the fear of being expected to allow him his release while only frustrating her. This is where the role of the penis as an instrument of release and control comes in and I highly encourage all hotwives to thoroughly enjoy their new ‘toy’.
Do not feel guilty about how the cuckold penis twitches and leaks while you attend to it and never feel guilty about the desire to prevent him from achieving release - that’s what a cuckold penis is for. It’s through this sacrifice that your cuckold demonstrates both love and commitment to his hotwife and how a hotwife demonstrates love and physical affection with her cuckold. Your cuckold will gladly suffer any frustration you ask of him rather than to not be able to experience that closeness with you.
The simplest expression of leveraging the cuckold penis for physical intimacy is simple manual and verbal teasing. With practice, this can and should be done almost anywhere, including in public. This is especially meaningful for the wives who have endured a number of years of sexual frustration before dating and becoming complete as both a wife and a woman. For these women, it’s entirely appropriate that their cuckold get to experience frequent arousal without satisfaction.
A more advanced form of teasing is referred to as “edging” and is something I encourage all cuckold couples to practice. I encourage this not only as a form of intimacy and physical/verbal communication, but also to become much better acquainted with the tolerances associated with your cuckold’s penis and testicles for both pleasure and discipline.
The general scenario is one where your husband is slowly and repeatedly brought to the very ‘edge’ of ejaculation before being backed down, forced to relax, often to the point of being limp, before being aroused to that very ‘edge’ once again. Done repeatedly, this practice will also cause a definitely testicular ache and in some men eventually prevent them from becoming erect due to the ache. When practiced regularly, the wife can learn to predict the level of her cuckold’s arousal with much more precision and understand from how he breathes, how his penis twitches and how his hips involuntarily flex causing him to hump nothing but air just how much stimulation he can withstand be fore spurting. Part of practicing this is the requirement that the cuckold learn how to resist spurting by communicating as effectively as possible regarding his proximity to orgasm.
It will take practice - your cuckold is likely to be easily excited and until he learns to accurately report his level of excitement and you learn to accurately assess it based on the twitching/leaking and swelling behavior of his penis, accidents are likely to happen. When it becomes obvious that the cuckold is about to orgasm, release his penis to prevent any stimulation as the orgasm hits. This produces what’s often referred to as a ‘ruined orgasm’ where the pleasure of an orgasm is often reduced to a more ‘mechanical ’ ejaculation than an orgasm.
As you improve your skills together, you’ll want to back him down from his orgasm as quickly as possible rather than simply allowing him to relax naturally. Some wives will use ice packs while others will use his testicles. A firm squeeze of them, or some finger flicking against one of his testicles can be very effective in deflating his penis. A note of caution: a bit of ‘abuse’ to the testicles can abruptly cause orgasm in some males rather than prevent it.
The use of a harness or the practice of tying his balls with light rope, boot laces, or even panyhose can present them better and leave them more sensitive to stimulation.
Taking your time to stimulate your cuckold under controlled circumstances can provide hours of intimacy rather than just a few minutes.
Once he’s soft, you can stroke the testicles you just punished to start the climb of his penis back to vertical. When starting out, you may not be able to get past just a few cycles of this before having an accident, but as you practice, you’ll find you’re able to repeat this cycle several times until either he has an accident or the “blue balls” ache becomes significant enough to prevent him from getting erect again.
Whether he is allows to spurt before that point arrives or whether you tease/deny him to the point of having his penis disabled is up to you - or up to your Dom, if you have one.
As a Dom, I base the decision on whether I am rewarding the cuckold with this experience, or punishing him. If I am rewarding him, then I will ensure he gets to spurt well ahead of his penis becoming disabled, but if I am punishing him, I will ensure his penis is fully disabled - and then give him the chance to mount his wife and fuck her - if he can.
Yeah, that’s not going to work very well, so he’ll get to watch me fuck her instead while his penis hangs limp and his testicles ache considerably.
This is the role of a cuckold’s penis and also leads us to the next topic and use for a cuckold’s genitals…
I realize that we don’t refer to a cuckold’s appendage, regardless of size, as a cock, but the acronym CBT doesn’t understand that dynamic. The acronym actually uses “torture” for the T, but I find that both extreme and inaccurate in that torture, to me, tends to imply injury, something never, ever desired when expressing sexual roles.
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While most wives are reluctant to actively torment their husband’s dangling bits, most also fail to realize that as hotwives they do so on a regular basis without even trying. Taking a more direct approach in making alternative uses of a cuckold’s genitals in the pursuit of shared intimacy is directly or indirectly ‘punishing’ a cuckold’s genitals. This is a very intimate experience and an overt expression of Dominance and submission since a male’s first instinct is to protect his genitals not offer them for punishment. Little is more effective at allowing a male to express his submission than having him present his genitals for various forms of discipline. It’s also creates additional contrast between cuckold and lover roles as one gets his genitals pleasured while the other has them tormented.
CBT need not be extreme: as stated above, simply edging or teasing your cuckold is a mild form of CBT. CBT, like other aspects of cuckolding, tends to be a progressive experience where the couple gets more involved and knowledgable over time.
Her cuckold has no idea how long he’ll remain erect for her teasing voice and hand, but he does know that she dressed for him and took this time to share in their lifestyle with him. This is torment he suffers gladly for her.
Discovering that emotional and physical intimacy isn’t dependent on intercourse is a true game changer for every cuckold couple. If you’re a cuckold couple and not practicing any of these aspects of cuckolding, I highly encourage discussion and exploration - you’ll be pleased with the results.
A loving tongue where she had been joined with her lover is the best way for a cuckold to demonstrate his acceptance and support for his wife to enjoy the unrestrained cock she deserves.
Effective as a ball collar as well…
Another husband suffering the Kali’s Teeth Bracelet (KTB).
I keep returning to this subject. Probably because I find this chastitydevice to be incredibly intriguing and cruel.
This particular device can be bought here.
An ingenious way of ensuring her cuckold stays locked in his chastity while on her date; rather than locking the device she locks his penis!
Frustration is a perfectly suitable means of expressing the role dynamics of a hotwife/cuckold marriage since for many wives, their marriage was one of sexual frustration for years before becoming a hotwife. Now it’s the husband’s turn to experience arousal without a true, satisfying release.
The symbolism and intensity of having a husband’s penis disabled by a physical restraint while his hotwife is eagerly pleasuring the unfettered erection of another male must never be overlooked or taken for granted.
Wearing the key to your husband’s penis restraint while on a public date with your boyfriend is to cuckolding what getting a triple word score is to Scrabble!
First, I have to commend her for embracing the term slut and owning it instead of allowing it to be used against her. Secondly, the addition of the key and her wearing of her wedding band will ensure any males with experience cuckolding a husband will recognize her for what she is: a hotwife on the prowl.
As stated in my last post on the topic, there’s no real rule about which ankle a wife should wear her anklet on and seeing a woman wearing a chain on her ankle is by no means a guarantee that she’s a hotwife, which is why many also add charms to communicate their status more clearly.
One of my recommendations to a cuckold recently was the addition of a key or a key charm; any bull or Dom with experience is going to recogonize that as a reference to her husband’s chastity. The other common charms I’ve seen are intertwined male and female symbols (2 male, one female) , the spade, to indicate a black preference or ownership and even a penis charm (hopefully not misunderstood by lesbians as a dildo).
Check out http://nipplecharms.com
The true value in the adoption and wearing of publicly visible symbols of cuckoldry isn’t necessarily the improved odds of the wife finding a bull, but in the overt, public expression of her sexual availability and the emotional and mental energy that her public disclosure creates for both herself, her cuckold and any boyfriend she might be dating.
So close, yet so far…
The black lace panties tell me someone’s going to take care of her needs, but it’s obviously not going to be her husband.
I guess this is the kind of T-shirt my wife would be interested in forcing me to wear in public as I mentioned earlier today.
It can be bought over at Zazzle.
The practice of the various forms of denial can lead to increased physical and emotional intimacy for cuckold couples as well as a heightened experience for other males involved with the couple. They key isn’t just to limit the cuckold’s ability to have intercourse with his wife, but to channel that need into other forms of intimacy.
In a general sense, couples want sex for for three reasons:
For couples whose husband lacks the requisite stamina or cock to effectively satisfy his wife, intercourse is really only effective for sexual release and most often only for the husband. In such marriages, the majority of the intimacy comes during pillow talk or foreplay since the duration of intercourse is likely short, leaving the emotional intimacy not well satisfied either. When intercourse is no longer the default option to pursue enjoyment of these core experiences for couples, other avenues can open, avenues which aren’t limited in the same fashion as intercourse and therefore likely to be enjoyed for longer periods and provide greater intimacy and even pleasure.
Example: Many wives, though they desire intimacy with their husband, may shy away from arousing him because they know it’s likely to lead to him pursuing sex with her, which she knows, will only lead to her frustration. When a form of denial is in place, the wife no longer has that perspective because the sexual options for her husband are defined, freeing her to verbally and/or physically arouse him simply to enjoy the moment of intimacy. In this manner, the ‘frustration’ shifts from the wife to the husband, but you’ll hardly ever find a cuckold who doesn’t eagerly agree to enduring this type of frustration in order to enjoy increased intimacy with his wife.
Even among cuckold couples where intercourse is mutually satisfying, forms of denial can help make good sex great sex when structure is provided around when and how such couplings can take place. When a couple offers this authority to their Dom, it not only relieves the wife of the guilt that can come with her husband’s denial, but increase the bond between the couple and their Dom or boyfriend.
For couples who have already had children and don’t plan on having more, it can be said that the husband’s penis has fulfilled it’s only necessary role if intercourse isn’t mutually enjoyable. His denial then, so that his wife may pursue more enjoyable intercourse separates the roles of mate and lover.
Denial creates opportunities for expressing and enjoying intimacy in other ways which ultimately allow for longer periods of intimacy and a deeper intensity to that intimacy both physically and emotionally.
It’s not uncommon for a husband to find himself either effectively sidelined by his wife once she becomes an active hotwife or for the husband to feel reluctant to seek sex being aware that what they bring to the table (bed, actually) isn’t what she needs. This is more a form of attrition than denial. In order to take full advantage of the emotional and physical benefits of denial, it needs to be made official even if it’s already in practice in an unspoken manner.
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There are multiple methods to use but they mainly fall into one of the categories below:
These rules can be used individually or mixed to create the rule set most appropriate for a given couples needs. Such methods remove the wife’s responsibility for her husband’s denial, freeing her to enjoy and encourage other forms of intimacy with her cuckold while knowing precisely what his limits are.
Without the ‘distraction’ of intercourse, many options open for couples what otherwise would be missed. Most cuckolds’ wives are already familiar with their cuckold’s tongue - often their default sexual organ once it’s become apparent their penis is deficient. This tongue can now be leveraged at will by the wife without concern that he’ll want to then poke her with his inadequate penis. Even if she would likely enjoy said poking, denying it is a tangible extension of the roles of hotwife and cuckold. By denying the husband something custom says he’s due, you exercise his submission.
Teasing & Denial is often used together for good reason: purposely exciting the cuckold then provides palpable opportunity to deny him. This is seen as cruel by some who have yet to experience it, but again, this is a method of exercising the dominant and submissive roles inherent in cuckold relationships. I teach wives to learn to enjoy their cuckold’s dangly bits as toys, available to be fondled, teased and left wanting as desired. Cuckold’s will eagerly submit their organs to this treatment as it provides purpose for their genitals and pleasure, despite the frustration that comes with it.
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Teasing is something that can become part of the fabric of your cuckolding experience. Teasing can be physical, but it is also verbal. When you simply discuss the lifestyle or an impending date with a lover, intimacy is being experienced both physically and emotionally. When a cuckold helps you bathe and dress for a date, your discussions all fall under the ‘tease’ category. Given the time it takes for you to get ready, it’s safe to say this intimacy lasts far longer than intercourse with your cuckold ever did, right?
Often the simplest and most easily understood form of denial for an active cuckold couple is restricting the husband’s sexual access prior to a planned date or evening out where the wife might make a new friend. Some wives who fall under the ‘unsatisfied’ category, but aren’t yet active hotwives, find themselves establishing a form of denial by requiring their husband make good use of his tongue to bring her to bliss before they have their feeble ‘4 minutes of glory’.
Denial can also be implemented as part of a ‘reward’ system for modifying a cuckold’s behavior; until he meets some specific obligation, he is denied the intimacy he most desires.
For couples actively involved with a lover, denial has significantly more value and meaning. Husbands will seldom actively invite their denial, but will respond to it with arousal when proposed or established. What form denial should take for a cuckold and his wife is very unique to their situation and needs. Most wives involved in a relationship with a lover take comfort in having him play a role in establishing her husband’s denial. This is a natural extension of the dynamics of cuckolding.
Being cut off can be temporary, semi-permanent or even permanent in some cases.
For couples practicing these forms of denial, it is even more important that the intimacy replacement mechanisms become part of the fabric of the marriage and lifestyle.
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